Note: If you haven't already, you might want to check out the first part of this series, here

One of the things that I made clear during my coming out process was that I was willing to take any questions or discussions, so long as they were in good faith. I knew this wouldn't be easy. I also refused to close everyone out because this situation was, and still is, awkward. After all, I might be the only person that a person knows, who has gone through this. Being approachable was of utmost importance for me after all because many of the times that the world hears about someone like me is in the form of politically charged memes, or worse, when another Transgender person is murdered or defiled.

I received a ton of questions, mostly from my team at work, but also from many of my coworkers. There wasn't a single question asked of me in bad faith. I discovered that the majority of people were genuinely curious, or didn't fully understand what transitioning really meant. Most of the questions are around wanting to know how hormones have affected me mentally. While I'm always happy to share my experiences, I find it important to caveat that my experience is not universal. I can't recall more than one person asking about physical changes. To this day I've only had one individual who came from a bad place, and they are no longer in my life.

The thing that has surprised me the most is how much more aligned the average person is with being respectful to Transgender people than what I'd been lead to believe. I've been repeatedly asked for my pronouns and if it's okay to use my new name even though I haven't gone full-time. Other coworkers have (with my permissions), been making sure to loudly use my new name as if it were a badge of honor to make sure the office knew very clearly, "This is Zoey, or Zee, and don't forget it!" Don't get me wrong, I've been treated like gold and it feels amazing to have such support from so many. This brings me to my next point:

While I've been very lucky and blessed to be surrounded by so many, I know that plenty do not have what I've found in the people around me. I know that once I get my head on my shoulders (this is still terrifying for me even in an accepting environment), I want to use my position to help others. I don't know what that looks like or when, but I'm going to figure it out.